Brian Price ([info]tbrianp) wrote,
@ 2005-11-15 22:16:00
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Current mood: distressed
Entry tags:life sucks

Wanted:Good Thoughts, Positve Energy and Good Karma
Just when you think things can’t get any worse they usually do. Since September of 2004 my family has been living under a dark cloud and I am at a loss on how to dispel it. Allow me to lay out a chronology for you and maybe someone can give me an idea on how to get out from under this dark cloud.

Details behind cut (this is not for the faint of heart)In September of 2004 we lost my Father-In-law to a stroke. At the same time my Uncle almost died from throat cancer and my Grandmother was hospitalized with congestive heart failure. In November we lost Angela’s Great Uncle Roy to cancer. After that, I’m not real sure when, we lost Angela’s Great Aunt Nellie. My Great Aunt Irene is undergoing chemo for Cancer (not sure what kind). My Grandma had to put her 17 year old cat to sleep in January. We lost a second cousin of Angela’s to a heart attack. The cancer they thought they had cured my uncle of spread to the rest of his body and he finally passed away after months of suffering 3 weeks ago. And then just today, my cousin Harry who lives in Wisconsin, fell head first 18 feet onto cement. The way I heard it, he was working on a roof and he slipped, caught a rafter with his hand but the rafter gave way and he fell forehead first into the cement. His arms were dislocated and his wrists shattered because he tried to protect his face. His face was shattered and his forehead caved in. He was lucky that the way he hit, his nasal cavity was not driven into his brain. They have pulled his forehead out and reset the nasal cavity but the rest of his skull is to fractured at this point and it will have to knit on it’s own. At this time he is in ICU in critical condition.

These are just the things that have happened directly to my family. This list does not include the good friend whose wife was killed in a car accident that he barely survived. This does not include the 2 or 3 people I know at work who have had deaths in their families. This does not include the teacher I had in High School that has passed. I have been exposed to so much death and suffering in the last 14 months I can hardly stand it and I feel like there is a curse on my family and it extends to those who I have contact with. I am in need of some positive energy and some good thoughts and prayers. Any help would be greatly appricated.




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I'm not dead yet ... I want to go for a walk.
[info]rwitte42
2005-11-17 01:59 pm UTC (link)
Pat and I discussed this recently. I think this sense of mortality is not uncommon among people in their 30s and 40s. Pat recalled her Linda stressing over it at about the same stage of life.

Remember that you and Angela are healthy. Your job is excellent. You have a wonderful home and good friends.

The glass is, IMHO, more than half-full.

Good thoughts are headed your way, as always.

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Stop, Breathe, Begin Again
[info]panta_rmstar
2005-11-18 05:57 am UTC (link)
A bunch of crap has happened in your realm lately. That is undeniable and I sympathize. You are in my thoughts and positive energy is being sent your way.

If all you are looking for is sympathy feel free to stop reading now, because what follows is less sympathetic sounding...



Positive energy and changes start inside yourself. You will continue to see the world as collapsing in on you until you stop counting the dead and start counting your blessings. I realize this is a very difficult transition to make, and I am not telling you not to grieve; that would be as impossible as if I told you not to breathe. The first thing you need to do is stop counting. It devalues the individual lives (note I said Lives not deaths), makes the losses seem more unbearable, and creates a false sense of pattern. Aunt Nellie was old and had lived her life well; she will be missed, but her passing was not a curse to her or anyone else and was only surprising in it's lateness. Uncle Roy was also old (admittedly not as old as Nellie) and he was sick for years; no big surprise, no curse. Admittedly many of the others who passes in the past year+ were far too young and we were all shocked as well as grief struck by their deaths, but each death needs to be seen individually for your own mental health.

My challenges to you...
1. Count the people who love you and you love in return...there are a lot of us so take your time.

2. Count the babies that have been born in the past 2 years or are expected in the next 9 months (I don't know how many you know, but I bet the more you think about it the more you will find)

3. Hug someone and remember how much they mean to you


With Love,
April

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The pity party is over
[info]tbrianp
2005-11-18 11:44 am UTC (link)
Thank you both for all of your good thoughts and energy and great advice. It is similar to what one of my friends down here told me. I have reached that age in life where this starts to happen to those I know and it is a natural part of life and if I want to have a pity party don't invite them because they don't do pity well. They prefer to look forward not back. I have decided that if I want positive energy I need to put out positive energy so that is what I am going to do.

Thanks again for all the positve energy and thoughts.

As an update, my cousin is awake and they can not find any brain damage and since he doesn't have insurance he asked to go home and the hospital is releasing him.

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